Helpers are Challenged to Take Leadership Roles Now
Aug 31, 2020 11:00AM ● By Karen Carnabucci
In these
disturbing and disheartening times, when we are faced with a worldwide pandemic
and accompanying political and social unrest, people in the helping and healing
roles are challenged to take on a new role—that of a leader.
At first
glance, the role of a healer seems antithetical to the role of a leader. The healer
typically works in the one-on-one format, responding to the pain and distress
of another. The leader is typically one who acts, who brings himself, herself
or themselves forward to take action on behalf others. Each role complements
the other, and we don’t have to be famous to lead. Or have a big “following”.
Or have any extra “specialness”.
The Rev. Martin
Luther King Jr.’s inspiring words apply to all good leaders. “Everybody can be
great … because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to
serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only
need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.”
Rev. King
makes it clear that this kind of service extends to the larger world. “An
individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines
of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”
Let us
look more closely at leaders and what makes a leader who can ably serve on this
larger scale. First, good leaders take the opportunity to deeply listen to the
people in their sphere, listening with ears and heart. They are able to stay
present in the moment, to engage, to be able to understand people’s deep
concerns and needs and equally able to respond in kind with voice and heart.
Second,
leaders pay attention to their experiences. Although leaders certainly should
think clearly and have the means to express their ideas and thoughts, they also
consider their experiences as routes to wisdom and clarity. They also pay
attention to and respect the experiences of others, understanding that people
and communities of people have widely different experiences that are valuable
and important.
Third,
they are willing to take responsibility for themselves, for others and for the
planet. Related to this responsibility taking, leaders can consistently “hold”
the leader role in challenging times and good times. In holding this role, they
serve as the consistent authority, willing to take action to benefit others,
and avoid the role of abandoning authority, the one who disappears when the
going gets tough.
Finally,
leaders actively support the creation of positive relationships with others
and, better yet, have the skills to facilitate such relationships. Research
shows that positive relationships with others are the best way to keep
emotionally stable, build the immune system, promote empathy and keep
physically healthy as well. Studies show that lack of social connection is more
detrimental for our health than smoking, high blood pressure or obesity. In
1990, Dr. Dean Ornish’s pioneering heart health treatments demonstrated that
people who attended support meetings along with changing their diet were
actually able to reverse heart disease.
Now, we
might continue to believe that there is something special about these
behaviors. It is true that these behaviors that comprise in the leader role
demand skills. But there is good news— these skills can be learned. This
learning, especially in these times, may be the greatest gift that we can give
ourselves, our people and our communities.
Karen
Carnabucci, LCSW, TEP, is a trainer, author and consultant in private practice
and founder of the Lancaster School of Psychodrama and Experiential
Psychotherapies. She is interested in creativity, the use of embodiment for
deep learning and social change. She is also a certified facilitator in Family
and Systemic Constellations. Learn more and subscribe to her e-letter at RealTrueKaren.com.